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How to deal with negative feelings

Hello, I saw your website and am hoping you can help. My partner and I have been monogamously together for 6 years. Recently, they have fallen for another person but they want to stay together, effectively opening up our relationship.

Posted in advice, coming out, emotions, jealousy, open relationships, poly/mono

What sex restrictions are reasonable and when?

Hello, Growing up I wanted monogamy because anything else was “not real love”. I didn’t want anything that wasn’t authentic. As a high school girl I started discovering my sexuality, my body, and what turned me on. I started watching

Posted in advice, open relationships

I hate my married partner’s new girlfriend!

Hi, I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years with a married woman. I am surprisingly comfortable being in this relationship considering her wife does not know. The married woman and I have been doing this without any idea of

Posted in advice, jealousy, open marriage, open relationships

I love two women – how do I stop lying to them?

Hello, I hope you guys could give me some insight. I’ll try and make this as short and sweet as I can. Honestly, I am tired of talking about it and thinking about it. Here is my story – I’m

Posted in advice, coming out, newbies, open relationships

How can I feel compersion for someone I used to know?

Hi there Mischa and Leon, I have a partner. He’s married. His wife is wonderful. I’m in a relationship with him, but not her. That’s fine. My partner is interested in a friend of mine. Well, I say friend. It’s

Posted in advice, compersion, open relationships

Open relationship threatened by desperate wife

Hello. I have been looking for somewhere/someone to talk to and get advice/input on my situation. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years now; he is married and until now it has been what I consider an affair. He

Posted in advice, communication, negotiations, open marriage, open relationships

Poly-saturation?

Hi! First off, I’d like to thank you on running a great blog. I’m pretty new to polyamory and having this resource really helped me out a few times. I have sort of a general question about feelings of poly

Posted in NRE, open relationships, polyamory, polysaturated, time management

Open relationships vs. polyamory

So I’ll start off with my answer to a question that pops up pretty often, and is asked by both veterans and new polypeople, to wit: “What’s the difference between an open relationship, and a poly one?” One way of

Posted in advice, open relationships, poly