About us

Open Love NY was formed by a small group of leaders in the New York polyamorous community at the Poly Living Conference in February 2009. These leaders envisioned a group that is membership-driven – by the people, for the people of the polyamorous community.

Open Love NY exists to build and serve the community of people in New York City and surrounding areas who aspire to love with honesty and freedom. We work with our members to educate the public about the existence and merits of responsible relationship choices between consenting adults.

Chrissy Raymond Holman, President
Mischa Lin, Vice President & Director of Communications
Buck Lawrence, Treasurer
Jon Zarantonello, Assistant Treasurer
Margot Garnick, Director of Membership
Ben Silver, Assistant Director of Membership
Executive Committee: O Man, Kyle Applegate & Mateo Arbelaez

General Rules of Conduct:

Open Love NY’s Rules of Conduct apply to postings on our Facebook Group and all Open Love NY-sponsored events. Members who violate the Rules will receive a warning. A second violation in the calendar year will result in the member being permanently banned from the group.

Membership in OLNY is granted to individuals, subject to review of their past behavior both inside and outside of our community. The OLNY Leadership Team reserves the right to expel members for violation of our Rules of Conduct, or for behavior that is judged to be harmful to our community.

Open Love NY exists for learning about polyamory and developing friendships and connections. It is not a place to troll for dates. For example, introductions on Facebook are fine, but don’t post what you’re looking for in a partner. There are several other dating/personals site for that, e.g. OKCupid.

Open Love NY advocates open communications with intention, fostering interactive dialogue, facilitating trust, listening to others, and giving and receiving support.

Respectful behavior and civil language is required.

Open Love NY practices safer space for all sexual orientations, gender and kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. “Safer space” means using inclusive language that acknowledges the diversity of this group, including diversity of sexual orientations and gender identities. Statements and language that marginalize or assume homogeneity in our audience (such as language that assumes there are no lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer people in this group), or that are offensive toward any particular group of individuals will not be tolerated.

Poly Cocktails House Rules (also applies to Poly Chai and other events)

Learn – Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safer Space – Poly Cocktails is safer space for all sexual orientations, gender and kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.