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How to deal with negative feelings

Hello, I saw your website and am hoping you can help. My partner and I have been monogamously together for 6 years. Recently, they have fallen for another person but they want to stay together, effectively opening up our relationship.

Posted in advice, coming out, emotions, jealousy, open relationships, poly/mono

What sex restrictions are reasonable and when?

Hello, Growing up I wanted monogamy because anything else was “not real love”. I didn’t want anything that wasn’t authentic. As a high school girl I started discovering my sexuality, my body, and what turned me on. I started watching

Posted in advice, open relationships

Reader ‘alarmed’ by partners sharing emails

Hi, I am extremely new to the poly scene and am still learning community ‘norms.’  In relation to that, I recently read the post on this blog from October 6, 2013 entitled, “Should I let my partner read my emails?” It

Posted in advice, communication, jealousy

Cheating wife wants more from marriage

Hello there, In the last three months, I’ve been cheating on my husband (more consistently) with an old flame from over a decade ago. The old flame is in an open marriage and so it was always safe for me

Posted in advice, choices, open marriage

How do I convince my girlfriend to be polyamorous?

Hi Mischa and Leon, I’m just looking for a bit of advice. Basically I’ve been with this girl for over a year now and I’m polyamorous. I haven’t made it apparent to anyone before because my past relationships weren’t exclusive

Posted in advice, coming out, poly/mono

Newbie drowning in “Hunger Games” dating pool

Dear Mischa and Leon, OK, so – help. I’ll spare you the intricate details, at least for the moment, and do my best to sum up my dilemma. We’ve been together for 20 years. We were each other’s first at

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Can this relationship be saved?

Dear Leon and Mischa, So here’s the situation – me and the man I love have been at each other’s throats for weeks now; he’s poly and I have been monogamous to him. For the last month or so he’s

Posted in advice, poly/mono

I hate my married partner’s new girlfriend!

Hi, I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years with a married woman. I am surprisingly comfortable being in this relationship considering her wife does not know. The married woman and I have been doing this without any idea of

Posted in advice, jealousy, open marriage, open relationships

I love two women – how do I stop lying to them?

Hello, I hope you guys could give me some insight. I’ll try and make this as short and sweet as I can. Honestly, I am tired of talking about it and thinking about it. Here is my story – I’m

Posted in advice, coming out, newbies, open relationships

How can I feel compersion for someone I used to know?

Hi there Mischa and Leon, I have a partner. He’s married. His wife is wonderful. I’m in a relationship with him, but not her. That’s fine. My partner is interested in a friend of mine. Well, I say friend. It’s

Posted in advice, compersion, open relationships