Date(s) - February 23, 2021
7:30 pm - 9:30 pm
Open Love NY is very excited to present our February speaker Zach Budd to discuss the basics of self-care, presented with invited participation from attendees. Zach will explore the reasons why self-care is often and intentionally overlooked in today’s society and discussions about how self-care is neither indulgence nor an option. Zach will give examples and reasons why self-care is CRITICAL and even ETHICAL to maintaining healthy relationships, particularly in non-monogamous/polyamorous dynamics.
The discussion will propose a radical shift in the way self-care is viewed as well as pointing out the “backward and upside down” prevailing narrative of self-care. Key points in this presentation include the “myth of selflessness”, “everyone has the same primary”,” turning the ‘To-Do List’ upside down”, “self-care red flags when going into new relationships”, “being selfish together”, and the “absolute, unequivocal imperative obligation to be shamelessly selfish.”
Tuesday, Feb. 23 – 7:30 pm to 9:30 pm ET
Zoom link: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83321434327?pwd=TlQvYmpDY0doUXduL0xUMENoMlNtdz09
Meeting ID: 833 2143 4327
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Zach is a self-proclaimed nerd, sex geek, and consent junkie. He has been actively polyamorous for more than ten years. Zach became interested in consent as a topic as a personal research project. He is currently working towards a Master’s of Social Work degree at the University of Houston’s Graduate College of Social Work to be of even more benefit to his community. Zach’s personal research interests include; intimate partner violence involving male victims, consent, consent education, consent culture building, alternative relationship styles and their history, self-care, consent and pleasure-based sexual education, consensual sex work and advocacy, as well as restorative and transformative justice.
Zach has served on polyamory and kink discussion panels and consent summits conducted workshops and recorded podcast episodes on the subjects of polyamory, consent, diversity, self-care, and kink. He has been a speaker at multiple conferences and summits nationwide. He is also the Gulf Coast Area advocate for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and a member of the Board of Directors for Loving More, the oldest polyamory non-profit in the U.S. (www.lovemore.com). Zach’s website is https://www.consentwarrior.com/
Zach lives, works, laughs, and lives in Houston, Texas where he enjoys listening to and playing music, converting from a fat boy to a runner, all things Star Trek, reading, podcasts, gaming, hockey, cooking, bourbon, cigars and being owned and loved by rescue dogs including a spoiled rotten boxer named Jadzia.