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Which direction should this relationship swing?

My wife and I have enjoyed swinging as a couple for years, and we decided to look into opening our marriage for solo hookups. We agreed that we’d try some encounters, she told me that she would be OK with

Posted in advice, relationship agreements, swinging

Open relationship threatened by desperate wife

Hello. I have been looking for somewhere/someone to talk to and get advice/input on my situation. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years now; he is married and until now it has been what I consider an affair. He

Posted in advice, communication, negotiations, open marriage, open relationships

Couple wants to call the “Poly Police” on friend’s cheating behavior

Dear PWA: I have an important question and would like to ask it anonymously.  I am in an open marriage, she and I have full disclosure. I am actually the one who brought her into this lifestyle. She asked me

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New girlfriend rattles nervous wife

Hello, My husband and I just started our open marriage. We’ve been discussing an open relationship for awhile now. Well, husband met a girl in a show they were in together, and he fell for her. He was hiding it

Posted in advice, communication, jealousy, open marriage

Female privilege?

Hey guys, My boyfriend of 3 years and I recently decided to start seeing other people. I should explain that it was my idea and it took almost a year of talking, reading the same books, more talking, working with

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The game of mono-poly

Hello lovely bloggers, I’m in a difficult place right now with my emotionally-closest partner. We’ve been in an ethical, mutually-open relationship since the beginning of our relationship, but have been fighting extensively the past couple months. It’s quite complicated, but

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Communication with partners’ partners… how much is enough?

I’ve got a poly situation and could use your “professional” advice – thanks for writing this column! It’s been really helpful for me in the past and I hope you can be again now. I’m in a romantic, ethically nonmonogamous

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Poly people vs Swingers = Montagues and Capulets?

Greetings. So, the deal is that am very honest and up front about who my wife and I are when meeting others for the first time; something that I think most people can and would appreciate. I like others to

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Kinky conversations aren’t for everyone

Hello! I live in NYC and the organized poly events here always seem to be advertised to and heavily attended by people in the local kink community.  I am not into kink, and not interested in dating kinky people, so

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Kink beware

Lately I have noticed a very big influx of kink into the poly community. I’m not against kink, but I feel that people are who aren’t into kink might be turned off to becoming part of the poly community if

Posted in BDSM, community, kink, newbies